How do you know it’s time to make a change?
The easy ones to recognize are:
If you’re not happy with what you have, where you live, your relationship, what you are doing or any other life and living situations.
If you’re bored with what you’re doing.
If something you’ve been doing is complete and it’s obvious that you have to move to the next thing.
The trickier to notice are the situation when you supposedly have all you need, supposedly doing something nice at work, but still, you have this remote sense that something is missing. Why is that tricky? Because it appears as if everything is OK, so why look for a change?
Usually, there are two kind of thoughts (or more) running at the opposite directions here. If you’ve been with me on this journey for some time, you already know that judgment creates absolutely nothing.
Let’s take work as an example. The first underlying judgment could be: I have a good job/profession therefore I should be satisfied. The judgment here is that you’re actually not quite satisfied where society expects you to be, so you beat yourself up about it.
The second judgment could be that you don’t actually believe that this is enough, that this is "the thing” for you, and you secretly judge yourself for not looking for something else.
Now, as you can see, those opposite thoughts are keeping you put. That’s totally OK if you are aware of it, and this is what you choose. But once you’re aware of it, when time comes, you can choose other things too. You can choose to make a change. It can be a small change, or a bigger one.
Often what stops us is those long moments before we actually choose. These are the hardest moments! Not the choice itself!
In many cases it is very surprising to see that after we choose, it’s much easier than we thought, and most of all, it is much easier than those moments of standing still or running indecisively in circles.
If the change you require seams too big for now, don’t negate choosing small changes. Sometimes even the smallest change can create something wonderful! Something that will light you up and bring you joy.
***You can listen to my guided imagination meditation on Choice! it's HERE on YouTube!***
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